Updated: Dec 18, 2019
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Basically she’s an eccentric, cranky, little witch that lives in the middle of the woods by herself, and likes to cause trouble. While I can get on board with the eccentricity, mood swings, and I’m down with her hermit lifestyle…I’m not so keen on her bad mouthing me and bringing me down.
Has anyone else noticed that that mean voice that keeps popping up in your head is pretty confident for something that has quite literally NEVER done ANYTHING is its life except be mean and horrible to you? While I wish that my inner mean voice would go find itself a new hobby…it’s also made me better understand another important part of self care – hushing up that mean voice.
Self-talk is essentially your inner voice – the one in your mind that says things that you don’t normally say out loud. We don’t often actually realise this voice just carrying on in the background..but our self-talk can have such a big influence on how we feel about ourselves.
The voice that’s constantly in your head has a huge impact on who you are and how you go about living your life. You might not believe it, and I sure didn’t to begin with, but you can teach that voice to say different things. It’s a bit weird but I’ve actually named my voice - I call her Madam Mim.
Now just a bit about me here – I love Disney, I’m a bit of a Disney nut. Madam Mim is the villan in "The Sword in the Stone." Basically she’s an eccentric, cranky, little witch that lives in the middle of the woods by herself, and likes to cause trouble. While I can get on board with the eccentricity, mood swings, and I’m down with her hermit lifestyle…I’m not so keen on her bad mouthing me and bringing me down.
It’s kinda fun too, when my inner voice starts going and it’s in a bad mood...I can get there and go “Oh shut it Mims” and it leaves. But it’s only a temporary solution…while I can beat the Madam back into her house and gets some peace and quiet…she will ultimately come back out.
I’ve found that the way to keep Mims in her house is by doing a lot of positive self-talk. This is where my affirmations come back in here. It felt so stupid and ridiculous when I first began doing this, but now it’s so natural because I kept persisting and doing it.
It didn’t seem like much to begin with but by continuing to do my self-talk, it’s become a huge part of my self-esteem and confidence. It’s just another one of those things I’m trying to get my life a bit more under control, and achieve a few more goals.
So the thing to remember here is to not say it like – "I don’t want to feel sad." "I don’t want to have anxiety." Switch how you say it!
Until next time, please speak kindly to yourself